5 free activities to break the screen addiction

So I probably won't get any argument if I say we're all pretty screen addicted. Adults bemoan kids always on their phones or playing video games but where did kids learn it from?  Distracted parenting, and by this I mean being always connected online (shopping, social media, texting, scrolling)  makes for some pretty disconnected parents and children. Here are 5 free activities to bust the screen addiction and reconnect families. 

Fully engage. Wherever you go, you see people attached to their phone, even when they are supposed to be relaxing. You wonder how they could possibly be enjoying themselves. And social media is overflowing with photos of people supposedly doing things together. Are they more concerned with doing things as a family or being seen to do things as a family? I don't know about you but I can't multitask. When I'm with kids, it takes all my attention and then some. Social media doesn't need your undivided attention, your kids do. Next you go someplace with the kids be more concerned about enjoying the time rather than posting about it instead of the other way around. 

Chat with children. I don't mean some artificially contrived cyber chat. I mean just talk with them and more importantly listen. Ask and answer questions. Discuss everything. I had a fabulous conversation with my second oldest grandson Moses who lives in Louisiana about everything from snakes to suitcases. He was amazed that we talked for almost an hour and a half. I said I could visit with him forever. I don't know how much he realizes how I treasure this time. And you should too. Your kids will not always have or make as much time for you. Celebrate it.

Explore. Wherever you go, observe and discuss what you see with your children. Instead of plunking some phone game in front of them when you go grocery shopping, take the opportunity to chat with them. Wonderful memories made. 

Make memories. Speaking of which, it seems to be that parents are more concerned about telling others what they are doing rather than just doing it. Again, be so busy enjoying family time that you are too busy to update everyone on social media about it. Instead of the other way around. 

Be in nature. Whether it's a park, the beach, a hiking trail, or just down the street, teach kids to observe and talk about what they see in nature. When I take my grandkids for a walk, I narrate what we are seeing. As they get older and more verbal, they start narrating, and questioning, and wondering. As Mister Rogers sang, 

"Did you know that it's all right to wonder? Did you know when you wonder you're learning? Did you know when you marvel you're learning? About all kinds of marvelous, Marvelously wonderful things?" 

Read together. There are just no words to describe the magical worlds you create and inhabit when you read to children. 

The Very Best Educational App in the World

If the Covid 19 pandemic taught us anything it's how valuable a tool digital resources are. However, computers, internet, cellphones, are far too overused and abused. It was honestly sad for me as a long-term educator to see how parents, having to keep kids home, were so quick to run to computers, apps and internet to educate their kids, when there are so many easy, free, hands-on teaching tools to use. I'm not talking about middle or high school students who arguably need computers to do their schoolwork. Arguably. Even, or maybe especially they, need fewer interactive games and more active learning.  I'm speaking of preschool and early elementary age kids. Most all children could do with less or no screen time and more hands-on activities. And Covid 19 was a perfect time to do that. 

I'm not faulting you parents who bought online curriculum or used computer resources. The task of homeschooling often seems daunting. But the good news is that most all of you are homeschooling every day, independent of computers or phones, without even realizing it. You teach your children valuable life skills every time you plan and prep a meal or snack together, read together, visit the doctor or library, go to the grocery store or just take a walk. Kids learn fine and gross motor skills building blocks and practical life skills playing house and communication playing dress up. 

In this blog, I've shared ways to turn your home into a tech-free school, with just simple household items and basic toys. You don't need a big house or fancy materials. You don't even need a designated room or space. I created learning centers in our homeschool when we lived in a small single wide mobile home. We didn't use TV except to play a movie once a week and the "Mister Rogers Neighborhood" ritual. 

The secret is to make every experience a learning opportunity. Not an artificial or contrived "lesson plan." You just incorporate little nugget lessons into everything you do, naturally, organically. Teachable moments are right there for the enjoying. You don't ever need a screen. 

Is it okay to use TV or computers? Of course! Do kids need to be computer savvy? Ye..es, but no fear there. They get all the screen experience they need without having to add more. I think they're hardwired to it now. Or it's something in the water source. What they need are engaged parents, monitored computer time, and online safety courses. And most of all, tons of outdoor time, free play, open-ended experiences, experiments, exploration, books, tree-climbing, sand castles, dancing, polliwogs, messes, beaches, forts in the woods and fresh air! 

And the good news? Those are all free! They don't require an app download or phone memory. They don't drain battery life! If you or your kids are screen addicted (don't be embarrassed to say, we've all been there), shut it down. Go out the door into the best app ever, called the big wide world! I guarantee you'll all feel better, breathe better, think better and have the times of your lives!  (Picture above is "school" from the inside out!)

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Health lesson plans to prevent juvenile obesity without mentioning weight loss

Increasing juvenile obesity is the elephant in the living room that everyone sees and no one want to address. More and more children are overweight and headed toward obesity. But discussing it or even being concerned about overweight kids is often regarded as fat-shaming or bullying. Here are lesson plans to prevent and treat childhood obesity without ever mentioning weight loss. 

Childhood obesity is tricky to deal with for two reasons. First, in puberty, many tweens get heavier and may even be called overweight by a doctor. But after puberty they slim down. This was my experience. Weight loss diets and calorie restricting may actually be dangerous. Calorie restricting such as the 1000 calorie diet I was put on at age 8, deprived me of nutrients needed for a growing body. It also caused eating disorder issues. Also, the extra weight is necessary for health after we lose weight in puberty. 

What is chronic obesity and what is overweight that will right itself after puberty? There are several factors. Is the entire family overweight? Is the child active or sedentary? How old is the child? A three-year old with obesity is more at risk than, say, a normal weight child who becomes overweight as a tween, as I did. This overweight period is usually temporary. And some kids are just bigger than others. 

Another issue is that overemphasis on weight loss can be a form of fat-shaming and bullying. It can also lead to eating disorders, low self esteem, anxiety and depression.  But yet, children with chronic obesity that will not disappear in puberty, are at risk of many other health problems including diabetes, sleep apnea, hypertension and other issues. Movement and exercise are more difficult. 

So how to prevent or treat juvenile obesity without discussing weight loss? 

1) Food lesson plans aimed at healthy eating. Teach the food pyramid and food groups, using these free printable lesson plans.  Nutriton.gov has many free nutrition printables including recipes, My Plate activities, coloring pages, food diaries and lesson planners. Here are free printable food journals and nutrition trackers. 

2) Engage students in physical activities and active learning as much as possible. Use these free printable DEAM (Drop Everything and Move) activities. DEAM is like DEAR (Drop Everything and Read), which intersperses the school day with unplanned exercise or reading activities. I especially like DEAM because they are random surprise fun activities that get kids out of desks and moving. These might include dancing, calisthenics or active games.

3) Go off screen and hands-on. Most children spend more time watching than doing: TV, online on phones, computers and video game systems. I'm a Shipt shopper and its a sad commentary that when I drive thru neighborhoods in the summer, I see very few children out playing but TVs on or kids playing on phones. Utilize these free printable lesson plans on screen time dangers. Kids Health offers printables and resources to help kids understand why too much inactivity is harmful and how to monitor their screen time. 

4) Provide active activities in lieu of sedentary seat work and workbooks. Montessori type learning centers get kids off the seat and actively learning. Check out this blog for a gajillion learning center activities for science, math, reading, writing, social studies and more. Here are fitness activities to keep kids actively engaged. 

Will these activities end childhood obesity? Not alone. But with support, guidance, education and care, kids can learn to be their  healthiest selves.